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Parents are Shepherds - Not Engineers: The Importance of One's Mindset for Raising a Child with ADHD

Parents Are Shepherds – Not Engineers As I approached the end of my career, I decided to distill the major principles that parents need to know to raise a child with ADHD to be a more contented and effective individual while sustaining the bond of the parent-child relationship. From reviewing all newly published research on ADHD weekly, to my familiarity with the extensive past research on the disorder, from my teaching thousands of professionals worldwide through more than 800 invited lectures across more than 30 countries, and helping thousands of families directly with their ADHD children in his practice, I pulled together the essential ideas parents need to know. I put these in my new book, 12 Best Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD (2021, Guilford Publications). Among the principles I discuss in that book, the most important to me was that dealing with the mindset, mental framework, stance, or attitude that parents take toward their role of raising a child, especially one with ADHD. Many parents I saw in my practice were viewing themselves as engineers or architects – as someone who gets to determine or design every aspect of their child’s major traits, attributes, abilities, and even outcomes. Based on a massive amount of research in child development and specifically ADHD, this framework or stance was wrong. And it led to numerous difficulties not the least of which was parental guilt when their child turned out to have any developmental, learning, or major behavioral problems. But how to convince them of the correct, science-based mindset they should adopt? The metaphor I invented to help parents adopt this new role or framework for child rearing was “parents are shepherds, not engineers.” This short video describes the importance of adopting this mindset and of abandoning the view that a parent is an engineer, architect, or sculptor. I am grateful for the image of the woman shepherd that is by Quang Nguyen Vinh for free use at https://www.pexels.com/photo/photo-of...